Especially if one or both parents were distant, uninvolved, and or abusive.
Men more my age, that I find attractive and a great match blow me off.
This is when it all started.
Maybe your problem is medical rather than psychological.
Furthermore, I think after generations and generations of women being held to a higher standard then men natural selection has made them more beautiful, but men get a free pass.
And how do you get good at facing your fears? Just let him do his thing.