Visitors to the South Pacific may be charmed by the custom of a welcoming lei, or garland of scented flowers, being placed around their neck as they arrive on their island of choice. Man: names -- Conversation stoppers: what not to say -- White socks and chrysanthemums: clothes and gifts -- Oogy Wawa! He has been mugged in Rio, picnicked on a glacier in Chilean Patagonia, and lunched with the King of the Zulus, a strict teetotaler, whose manners were impeccable. Men keep their arms to their sides; women rest their hands on their thighs, fingers touching. Many Asian cultures are not, traditionally, used to touching as a greeting and have imported the handshake only to fit in with the West. But he would never greet an unknown woman sitting alone. But in places as varied as Japan, Costa Rica, and Indonesia, a weak handshake is the norm and is no indication whatever of a lack of assertiveness. If you should find yourself bowed to without a handshake when exchanging cards, perhaps, or in a rural area , a polite nod back will suffice.
Many ancient traditions can seem bizarre and humorous to outsiders; the author presents numerous instances of personal traits of Americans that are thought to be strange abroad. I thought when I picked this up that it was going to be anecdotal examples but it is organized more like a reference book - but it isn't a particularly comprehensive or well organized to serve as a reference book there is an index, at least. Bookseller: , Ohio, United States Henry Holt and Co. So, if you feel the urge to compliment your new friend on his diamond-encrusted Rolex, do so obliquely. In Egypt they kiss each other on the forehead, and in Benin friends of the same sex may greet each other with several kisses, ending with a light touch on the lips.
Subjects covered include the opening contact between strangers; greetings, gestures, handshakes, and getting names right; as well as more complex traditions and how to behave if you decide to stick around for good. Because, of course, despite the ease with which we can now communicate with and visit one another, they still do things differently over there. This is a great book for the world traveler or the traveling soul alike. Her name was Hineahuone woman formed from the earth and she and later had a daughter called the Dawn Maiden, who was to control the change from darkness to light. If offered a garland by a stranger at a temple as a prasad present from the gods , be aware that the stranger will expect you--not the gods--to pay for it. If you were going to a particular country and wanted to make sure you didn't make any cultural errors, this book wouldn't give you a sold background.
In Vietnam or China, by contrast, even a peck on the cheek or forehead is verboten; in rural areas women who've been observed kissing a man have been driven to suicide by the shame. Subjects covered include the opening contact between strangers; greetings, gestures, handshakes, and getting names right; as well as more complex traditions and how to behave if you decide to stick around for good. The English are often a bit awkward with social kissing--men more so than women, although they go along with it because it's sophisticated and Continental. As a stranger, once you've shared breath, you cease to be thought of as one of the manuhiri visitors , but become one of the tangata whenua people of the land. After the initial Assalamu 'alaykum exchange--accompanied by a gentle handshake--you may then pull back your hand and touch your heart.
In Mediterranean, Arab, and Latin American countries the gaze may be so full-on it disconcerts. If this happens to you in India, there's no need to go on wearing your adornment indefinitely; once seated, remove it and put it to your right on the table. Whether you are heading abroad or staying at home, Going Dutch in Beijing is a delightful and indispensable handbook designed to ensure that your sense of the world is informed and your travel is happy. The days when gaijin Western visitors were expected to bow in return are long gone. Teens can use this title as a reference book for deciphering lifestyles. Why shouldn't you offer to pay for your share of the meal in China? L'autore ha saputo dividere bene gli argomenti toccando tutti i paesi insieme e non uno alla volta.
Not for nothing did primitive cultures tread warily with outsiders. If a Japanese meets a fellow countryman, he will bend from the waist, eyes lowered, to the same level--or lower, if the person he's addressing is more important. Please click the link in that email to activate your subscription. A activation email has been sent to you. Though Swedish or Australian egalitarians may scoff, in many cultures the order in which you greet people is still highly significant. In the United States and the United Kingdom it's polite to smile when you first meet someone; however false or creepy the grimace, the attempt signifies that you're at least trying to be happy about the encounter.
Spine creases, wear to binding and pages from reading. In Japan today you will be greeted with a Western handshake. Africans often go in for elaborate handshakes as a sign of friendship or solidarity. In stark contrast to all this is Scandinavia. Because, of course, despite the ease with which we can now communicate with and visit one another, they still do things differently over there. Mark perfectly demostrates that the basic concept of the values sharing is the respect between those differences and not their refuse generated by the ready-to-use tips of daily media's opinions. As a stranger in rural Cameroon, you won't just be greeted; villagers will stop you and ask you where you're from, how long you've been in the village, who your parents are, if they can help you, and so on.
This is not just a matter of knowing that how we wave hello in the United States may be taken as an insulting gesture in Greece. To be offered this as a visiting white person-- muzungu--is a big sign of acceptance particularly in South Africa. Su halloween c'è un'imprecisione: non è proprio una festa cristiana! In these days of mass travel this is more likely to happen to people on upmarket tours than to every backpacker who passes through. . In some places they go even further.