The materials are here for the deepest mutuality and the most painful estrangement. Exploring the complicated history of love, desire, gender, sexuality, parenthood, and inequality, Erotic Attunement probes the disquieting issue of how we can draw a clear line between natural affection toward children and perverse exploitation of them. Offers extensive data tables in the appendices: Assembled in easy-to-read tables, students are given access to the latest national agencies data from agencies including the U. Still, the anger only rises to the surface now a Rich details how motherhood and childbirth were subjugated as people transitioned from matriarchal or equal societies to patriarchy. That's what the beginning of this book was, a misleading introduction that led to me looking to recapture the tone of someone who's actually experienced what she's talking about till, disappointingly, the very end. I have read a lot of positive reviews for this book, so maybe I do not have the same connection to the author that others have.
Mothers are not perfect, and the institution of motherhood does not help with this perception or the pressure women put on themselves and feel from culture and country. I enjoyed and learned from this far more than I expected; I thought it would be gloomier than it is. At one point in the book, Rich tells a story about a woman who killed and decapitated two of her children in her front yard. This identity defuses feminist notions of collective empowerment and social change by drawing from both postfeminist and neoliberal ideologies. Rich analyzes what happened and shows how the newspaper reports reveal the pressure this mother was under in having had eight children and in being left alone with them day after day. Rich also discusses the hatred that mothers feel towards their child, and the depression she felt throughout raising her three children.
Rich connects us to our history - mothers to daughters - and provides a path forward that, 45 years later, we have yet to find. It seems as though all parents have a breaking point when it comes to their children, however it seems highly unlikely that those parents could ever imagine doing what that woman did to their own children. This seems logical to me. Emily, You are so amazing! Sie wird nicht erben, wenn der Großvater von der Existenz seiner Enkel etwas erfährt. «Working Mum liest sich, als hätte Bridget Jones jetzt eine Familie. She advocates changing culture to benefit our sons, as well as our daughters.
As a mother and a woman I take offense to I only made it to the half way point in this book. Rich also attends to mother-son and mother-daughter relationships in respective chapters. Rich is the mother to three sons, and realizes how much she loves them, but rejects some of the cultural ideals that inform the mother-son relationship and, in essence, ruin it. I have many work experiences in which I was treated as less than or as an object sometimes a sex object by men. Though my life is fed by my political consciousness—by feminism in particular—it informs my poems only in oblique or submerged ways. I may finish, but I'm not sure yet.
While that is interesting even if it isn't true, it offers visions of ways of viewing motherhood that differ from the modern sentimental view , it wasn't really what I was after. However, it is not so true for this time period. Every mother and daughter, and every daughter who is thinking of becoming a mother should read this book. However, women writers are now as common as men. Given that feminism and womanism are interpretive concepts, there is always a sense that knowledge-making is in progress; for there is nothing static or stagnant about feminism, feminist theory and feminist action. How do we reconcile those feelings when they occur simultaneously? All that being said, it was incredibly well written, and I am not saying this book should not exist.
Born to a middle-class family, Rich was educated by her parents until she entered public school in the fourth grade. At the end of this book, Rich says something about women, even at the time of her writing, thinking in ways that were ignored, derided, or actively suppressed by mainstream ideologies. I only made it to the half way point in this book. A very thorough examination of women and motherhood in history up to present day. Classification Dewey : 420-Langue anglaise.
Emecheta is shown to be a bridge-builder between two cultures and two worlds in narratives both challenging and popular characterized by ambiguity, ambivalence and double-voiced discourse, all of which evince the writer's determination to expose imaginatively the colonial heritage of centre-periphery conflicts, cultural corruption, ethnic discrimination, gender oppression, and the migrant experience in multiracial communities. From United Kingdom to U. Taking on theological and ethical arguments over the question of sexuality between unequals, she arrives at the provocative conclusion that it can be destructive to completely bar eroticism from these relationships. I love how Rich combines her feminist critique with anecdotes and reflections from her own experiences as a mother. I know not everybody or every situation is like this, but it seems that women are especially hard on each other and we tend to police each other into this institution and others that in reality oppress and control. But there are also incredible reminders that the best way to raise feminist children is for women to love, respect, and nurture themselves.
I've been thinking nonstop about some of the issues this book addresses. Key Features: Uses the lens provided by the race, class, and gender paradigm: Examples illustrate the ways in which multiple systems of oppression interact with patterns of self-defeating behavior to create barriers that deny many African Americans access to the American dream. As someone whom eugenics would have eagerly purged out of the womb, the last thing I need is a portrait of child abuse that seeks apologisms and an analysis of infanticide that considers gendred physiognomy as the only plausible factor. Beyond the transphobic construction of this entire thing you could say it's aged badly, but the fact that Rich never bothered to go back and comment on her thinking before her death in 2012 shows that it hasn't so much aged as poisonously survived , there are smaller individual matters about her vilification of birth control, abortion, insanity, and a relationship between mother and child where the child is not in anyway owned by the parent. This is an amazing book -- Rich discusses the experience of motherhood and daughterhood from pre-birth to adulthood with exquisite language and emotion. I cannot speak for the experience of men and their relationship to fatherhood, and that isn't what this book is about anyway To have a child, to not have a child.